Insight Coaching

The Process

Empowerment

If you haven’t already met fear, believe me, fear has met you. Fear is at home in the shadows of our mind; quietly suggesting we are powerless, incapable, unacceptable, unworthy or just too… too much, too old, too tired, the list goes on. This constant and unchallenged drip feeding of limits can seem very believable, especially as fear permeates our feelings deep down into our viscera. In time fear can become the very lense that we view life through, often without question, but not without its cost.

For some of us, we may even know the repertoire of fear. Those self limiting beliefs may even trace back to a time, place or relationship. Yet still they persist. Settling in as an air of worry, doubt or a general mood of overwhelm, prompting the survival strategies that we act out in attempt to make ourselves feel good. All the while, what we really need alludes us.

Because knowing about our fears is not enough, we need to meet our Fears with a whole new approach, one that comes from relating rather than fixing. And one that becomes second nature, because as we loosen its grip of control, fear presents in ever more refined versions.

When we can truly witness the play of our fear in a moment of reactivity, it is like suddenly discovering a previously hidden door on a your daily trodden path. This is a new moment in consciousness.

There is an incredible magic in a new moment of consciousness. A moment where instead of reacting as we have done so many times before, we are empowered knowing something can change.

Let me teach you how, through this wonderful process of Insight Coaching. With each session tailor made for you; exactly where you are at, how you are wired, and where you would like to go.

I could speak for days on this topic, as there is so much you can learn about yourself, your life, what it is to be human, and how healing is as creative as you are.

Let’s start with Insight as this is a process where you learn to access your own insights anywhere anytime.

INSIGHT : An instant understanding that arises from within us. Insight is accompanied with a deep knowing that this is true for us. A knowing and understanding of such calibre that we are changed forever more in that moment. Our perspective of ourself, our life and life as we see it, has shifted so radically that it spreads like light illuminating our inner landscape. Penetrating and informing our beliefs, our script, our feelings, our emotions, our breath and our body.

In essence, changing your relationship with yourself. That’s my favorite part. Insight shifts how we relate to ourselves, naturally.

With the power of your own insight, you come face to face, in relationship with the honest vulnerable truth of your fear in such a way that your story can be rewritten in an instant. And you know, from this moment that you can change, as you already have!

This is a journey the mind can only witness … One our heart must take us on.

Once you have passed through this door of your own making, you naturally make more sense of who you are, your life, relationships and what is next for you. As you grow you are able to face any arising emotion - be it anger, guilt, shame, grief or fear and recognise what it is that you are needing from yourself, to emerge from any experience wiser each time.

And in the gentle unfolding of your own insights the road ahead becomes clear and possible.

I don’t know about you, but I am a person that does not like to be told, I need to find out for myself. I recognise this as the need to know the truth of my being, not just to control myself, but so I can be more alive. This is the value of Empowerment and is at the core of my coaching style.

We have all learnt techniques; how to focus on positivity, affirm and visualise what we want ect. These techniques are useful tools… Yet the uncharted territory of our own relationship with ourselves often goes ignored, as though we can just slap up posters of our new life over the painful layers of shame, unworthiness and fear.

The process of Insight Coaching itself is taught simply, so that it very quickly becomes your new awareness. And this is key. For it is how we are truly relating to ourself in the moment of pain, that decides which path we take with our very next moment…. the same beaten track or do we choose to see something differently this time?

In the words of one of my clients, ‘Everything has changed, yet nothing has changed, my whole perspective has changed. And that visceral feeling is no longer constantly there.’

if you are a reflective person who knows, but doesn’t yet understand yourself, this may be just be the reframing you need to discover your own insights and heal your relationship with yourself. I look forward to introducing you to this way and to more of yourself!

Dying, Death and Grief

There are some experiences in life that are unavoidable. Dying is one of them and although inevitable for all in its path, it’s still a shock.

Our inner compass can be overwhelmed when experiencing dying and death - be it our own or that of someone dear to us. When this is your first real dance with an intimate death experience the grief can feel overwhelming, exhausting and disorienting. The restful caress of peace hides amongst dying, death and grieving often requiring that we journey through the fear and pain of loss to rest in its wisdom.

Death is a confronting experience in it’s finality. However, within the inevitability there is an invitation. An invitation for us to make peace with our life in this world before it is no more. As the changing terrain of what was important loosens our tightly held grip of the past, present and future we are called to re evaluate. This can be a chance to shed the old life and discover life anew.

Joseph Campbell described the Hero’s journey beginning when life upends itself. He says that ‘every hero must have the courage to be alone and take the journey for himself.’

To be transformed by our own death is unlike any other life experience - as there is no bargaining with death. Once we realise it, the ‘no way out’ nature of death offers a profound opportunity to heal. Insight coaching is a simple process which is individually tailor made to help you stay present and find your own way to show up and attend to the process of dying, death and grieving.

Part way through my childhood, I tacitly understood reincarnation - I knew that I had lived before. For me this is not a belief, this is a memory and a deep knowing. Within my 30’s in the decade devoted to Spiritual Practise, I gravitated towards understanding the Art and Practice of Death and Dying. The results of this wisdom combined with Insight Coaching moves me to continue to help people find their way at the end of their own or another’s life, so the dying are free to transition in peace and the living transform grief into an enduring love.

Below is an informative and amusing TED talk by Peter Fenwick who has made it his life’s work to provide informed insight and instruction on the process of dying.

Be it in your dying or grieving, I would be honored to help you live the life you have with freedom and ease.